No, this isn’t going to be a list about how I listened, how I let him be himself or how I supported him. I did those things in my own special way every time, of course. Here’s a list of things that are more up my alley and a bit more personal, I think.
- This painting: I made the painting posted here. It’s the Eiffeltower with two people in front of it being affectionate. I boxed it up and sent it across the seas as a surprise gift. The person it was for and I wanted to go see the Eiffeltower at night to enjoy the lights. We never got to do so.
- Wrote a love letter: I don’t mean a kindergarten crush that I worte a letter for. No, this one was a bit more ‘legit’, as the kids would say. I cut out small flowers and leaves. I put two on the bottom right corner of a blank page and used my printer to copy as many versions as I needed. I wrote what I wanted to say in a document first. I placed the pages with the flower over lined paper so I could write everything neatly on the lines, too. I folded up the pages, put them in an envelop, put a world stamp on it and sent it off with the mail along with my hopes. It was one of those ‘I-miss-you’ letters.
- Poetry: I’m sure I’m not the only person who tries their hand at poetry now and then. Let’s be honest, love is inspiring. I wrote a good few poems. I haven’t done it in the past four or so years however.
- Composing: My guitar is always my second love and at times my first if there is no significant other. I am also fond of singing. I learned a good few chords and got into the habit of writing songs when I was 16. This habit never really ended unlike poetry. Of course, sometimes I am feeling more inspired than others. Sometimes I can write multiple songs at the same time while other times I go months without any new works. I’ve written love songs of different kinds. There are the ‘hey-I-like-you-so-lets-give-it-a-shot’ songs. There are those themed ‘I’m-so-happy-to-be-with-you’ and of course the ‘I-miss-you-for-some-reason’ songs.
- Decorated picture frame: I took out my paints and colored a wooden picture frame. I made it all red and orange and yellow; very warm colors. I realize now that I could’ve put a nice picture of myself in it, too.
- Drew characters from a story I let him read: It’s no secret that I am someone who likes to write. First I sent a printed version of a short novel I wrote. Later I sent a picture of two important characters form it that I drew. This is probably not too meaningful to most but to me it felt nice to do it since he said he really enjoyed the story.
There’s also a few things I still want to do some day. One of them would be leaving notes around; sticky notes with small messages for the person to find. I also want to prepare dinner for if he’s coming home late and I can’t be there with a note of how long he should put it in the oven for or such. It’s all about the little things, no?
I’ve also been waiting for the opportunity to use an idea that has been lingering for a while now. It’s a combination of a coupon book and the Christmas advent calendar. I think it is especially fun for long distance couples who don’t get a lot of time together. Here’s how it works.
Step 1: Create a nice picture either on cardboard or a canvas. This can be a drawing, a painting or a blown-up picture.
Step 2: Find sticky notes or other small paper and make an estimate of how many you would need to cover the entire thing in a neat fashion. Sticky notes would be especially easy so you can put them on and remove them later.
Step 3: Say you’d need 48 squares of paper/notes. You come up with 48 things. These things can be little messages or even activities you can do. You could offer an amusement park day or a home-cooked meal or even watching their favorite show together. Put anything on it you want. You can use the internet for this.
Step 4: Now take your papers. Write the message or activity on one side. On the other you can put something decorative. When using sticky notes, write the text on the side of the note that has the ‘sticky stuff’ on it.
Step 5: Next you place all the cards onto your board/canvas. Sticky notes make it especially easy to do this because you can easily put them on. Place the cards text down. For non-sticking cards you can use a small piece of tape and attack the paper for a small portion. They need to be attached in a way that they can be easily removed without bringing harm to the image below.
Step 6: The final step is to execute the board. Allow your partner to pick off cards either a few times a day or once a day. This can be up to you entirely. If you want to fill a few months, you can do daily. If you only have a few weeks, you can do this multiple times a day. It’s also possible to take turns removing the cards. Do the activity mentioned or plan it. Read message cards to them. When you finish off the last cards, what remains will be the image underneath all the previously placed cards. This can be given as a present at the end.
I am not seriously hoping for a chance to find someone who I want to do this for. I wouldn’t object to finding someone like that but time will tell.