30 Thoughts on Heartbreak

In the eyes of many, I am but a youngster. I am only 23. They’d think I have no knowledge of the world—and they are probably right. Yet I still wish to share some wisdom I gathered over my own years of interacting with humanity. Today I’d like to talk about heartbreak; not to be mistaken with the medical condition heartbreak syndrome. I mean the kind that one experiences after having loved and lost.

As someone who (thinks she) has experienced this, I’d like to share a few thoughts here with those who have hurt and still do.

  1. Accept that it hurts. Allow the emotions to affect you.
  2. Allow yourself to cry. It is not a sign of weakness. If it happens then let it.
  3. Let the people in that are there. They are the ones who care; they are your friends. Let them help you. They will prove to be invaluable.
  4. Know that it is okay to linger. You don’t need to be over this person immediately.
  5. Give up on obtaining a reason or an answer. None you will get will satisfy you; if you get any at all.
  6. Remember to hold off on doing things that you might regret.
  7. It will be a long time before you no longer think of that person at all times. It will happen some day, but it might not be soon.
  8. The dreams of this person will also fade some day.
  9. This also goes for the thought of picturing him or her in your future.
  10. Listen to sad songs and allow them to affect you if they do.
  11. Just because this person doesn’t love you does not mean no one ever will.
  12. Wine is okay but don’t overdo it multiple nights.
  13. Drink with company and confide in them if you decide to drink.
  14. When you see them with a new significant other, you are allowed to be upset or mad but do not hate the new person. They are not to blame.
  15. Remember that every hurt is a lesson to be learned from and to grow from.
  16. Social media should not turn into your diary. You’ll regret posting all your feelings on it.
  17. A physical diary is however a good idea. Keep one if you wish and write all your thoughts and emotions in it; no matter how jumbled and random they are. Expressing yourself is a great remedy.
  18. There will be sleepless nights. They will be lonely. They will be harsh and cold. Remember that the sun always returns after the night. So too will light come back to your life.
  19. Wallowing is okay.
  20. The best remedy will always be time. It is not an instant remedy of course but it will definitely heal you eventually.
  21. Rebounds don’t work. Maybe for the first month they will help you forget the hurt but eventually your wounds are bound to open and cause more chaos than before you found your rebound. It’s better to wait and see what the future brings than seeking out a human medicine.
  22. The only one who can complete you is you. No other person can do this.
  23. Even though you’d likely rather be lazy and hide under your blankets, try to do something to grow. Read or do something else that helps your mind. It’s not only a pleasant distraction but it’s a way to spend your time.
  24. If you feel you were the one that loved more, know that that too is okay.
  25. It is okay to never want to speak to that person again. If they want to be friends and you don’t, then don’t. Let them go.
  26. A day will come when you no longer wish for their company. Allow such thoughts to overwhelm you. Enjoy them.
  27. Physical activities will help let go of stress and tension. Exercise, go for walks, run a distance, take the bike somewhere but just do something when you feel your body becoming extremely tense.
  28. Know that you are not the only person who had their heart broken. Many people on this planet experienced it and made it through. You can do the same.
  29. Know that someone better will come along some day. This person will outshine the person that hurt you in so many ways that you will be shocked to know that it was even possible.
  30. Finally; know that you are a strong, unique person that deserves to be loved. You will grow and be stronger. You will find someone better and you will grow with confidence and happiness in ways that the previous person would not have been able to give you. Perhaps they might even dare to look upon you one day and realize they made the biggest mistake of their life. They probably did.

I wish endless strength to those who are dealing with an aching heart at the moment. May destiny be kind to you all.

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